Violence is just another way of saying, 'I'm all out of ideas.'

If we don't claim our own anger, others will. And they will use it against us -- often with a profit motive in mind.

There will be times when things come crashing down around us. But resistance and avoidance typically exacerbate our pain...

Queer people have long been at the mercy of men unable to afford the full range of their attractions and desires.

Our energetic shadows reside at the intersection of shame and avoidance.

Much of our mental health depends on the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves.

Public displays of vulnerability indicate our strength, because they signal all we can afford.

Dwelling in the desire for what you know you can't have is a form of self-sabotage.

Our wounds are less the marks of shame than the seeds of initiation.

What's underneath our urgency to change (or "improve") is often a desperate, driving self-hatred, whose antidote is patience and...

Where do you seek refuge?

What was said can never be unsaid. What was done can never be undone. All we can do is acknowledge, apologize, make amends, forgive...

Misogyny is the root of our homophobia, and it's killing us.

No matter who you are, or where you've been, or what you've done... You are not beyond the power of redemption. None of us are.

Learned helplessness in the queer community rears its ugly head in many ways: idle drug use, doom scrolling, panic dating, addiction...

We cultivate resilience by going to the places that scare us.

Discipline is a practice, not a punishment.

At a young age, many gay people learn to dissociate as a matter of self-preservation -- hiding who we are for the sake of survival...

There is beauty in our shadows and purpose in our pasts.

Trying to expunge those parts of you resulting from years of sorrow and anguish is a losing game. But you can learn to trade your...